SO YOU WANT A HUSBAND?

First let it be clearly stated. I am not married neither am I single. I'm in a courtship, looking to get married to her someday.

I find it pretty amusing sometimes that the most discussed issue in our world is marriage. In the west, it’s the nuisance of homosexual marriage; in my home it’s the question of who the right guy is and who the right woman is.

I used the title ‘so you want a husband’ because often the people who usually want a husband have it all wrong. They have a mind-set shaped by the ideas of the world from Hollywood, Bollywood or Nollywood about what marriage is and what the right kind of woman should be and what the right man should be.

So you want a husband.

• Did you know that everything the world tells you about marriage is a lie? (For example now they are telling us marriage can be between male and male, female and female)

• Did you know that you have to already be like a wife before you can become one?

• Did you know that you were created for Him and Him for you? (Because God knew from the beginning that he will create a woman to help the man and already put all that is needed for the man to be a good wife and the man to be a good husband in them)
• Do you see yourself as being able to help Him in achieving His goals and the purpose of God for His life?
• Did you know that you must be ready to accept his love, though sometimes it can be tough love?
• Did you know that He is the head of the home? That no team can operate properly without a leader (the final decision maker, someone who listens and gathers everyone’s input and gives a direction)
• Did you know that you won’t agree with everything he decides for you and Him and sometimes you’ll almost want to have his neck?
• Did you know that once you are married to Him you are to be with him till death do you part? That divorce is forbidden by God?
• Did you know that when He loves you, He’ll care for you like there’s nothing else that matters?
• Did you know that He cannot love you if He doesn't love God?

I’ll like to throw more light on the last question.

No man loves a woman the way he should until he loves God.

I often say that the difference between men is only one thing, their love for God.

Because in a world full of perversion where sex in up for free in some circles, the only thing that keeps a man from following that path is the love for God He has in Him.

I remember a message from a preacher I listened to, he said he was having some issues with his wife and what set him straight was that God reminded him that his wife was also His daughter so He should watch how he treated her.

A man who truly loves God understands what love is as stated in the Bible and sticks to it.

So you want a husband?

Does he love God, does he fear God, does he honour God, and does he serve God?

Because when all is said and done and all cloths are stripped, that is all that makes the difference.

And when you finally have him as a husband, make sure his love for God is never dying because that will keep your love for each other strong and enduring.

Salut