A Man as a Leader in His Home.

First of all, who is a leader? A leader is one who serves, I know this does not go with the conventional definition of leaders in today’s world but that is what a leader should be. A leader is one with power and authority, however, his power and authority makes him a servant leader not a ruler/dictator as is found in today’s world. He knows that with great power comes great responsibility and this humbles him.

Now that we are clear on that, how is the man supposed to lead his home?

A man is the leader of the home, it has been ordained by God, He is the authority of the home, the final decision maker, he is the servant leader because his primary responsibility is to go out there and provide for the every need of his home. He is to love his family more than anything else in this world.

Now I'm beginning to sound like, in the home there is the man and the others; but that is not it.

In many circles, women have usurped the authority of their husbands and have become chair-ladies, making the man in the house ineffective; it is also unfortunate that it’s gone as far as women saying I want to marry a man who sees me as his ‘partner’. (Trust me you don’t want to marry one; he’ll look like vegetable when you need him the most).

A man as leader in the home understands that his wife is the weaker vessel and he has got to be real strong, even if it is only for her sake.

A man as leader in the home understands the thing line between love and being spoilt, chastisement and being too strict, being a dictator and being a leader and so on. He sees it all and finds the balance at every turn of the way because every situation calls for different approaches. That is the man as a leader.

Also, a man as a leader understands that mankind is spirit has a soul and lives in a body. He understands that just like there are desires of the body, there is for the soul and the spirit. He sees his wife and loves her because he understands that it is his duty to her to help her grow spiritually; fulfil her emotional desires and physical desires as well.

He takes her out to dinner every once in a while, listens to her all the time, watches for when she needs rest, wants her to be happy all the time.

A man as leader in the home rules his home in the fear of God; he is the spiritual leader of the home, he takes responsibility for all that happens in his house, good or bad. He understands that it is his responsibility to protect his wife and children and wakes up every day asking God for grace to do just that and does it.

A man as a leader in the home does not rule his house by democracy; he rules it in the fear of God.

He says ‘as for me and my house we will serve the lord’.

Lord, make me like this man and make our men more like this. Amen.