THE KING AND HIS KINGDOM. PART 1

This is the story of the Greatest King that ever lived. A story of Love, Mercy, Pain, Hope, Betrayal, Justice, Judgement and a Kingdom. A story of the heavens, earth and creation.

There is a King who lived long ago, still lives and will always live. His Name is Emini. King Emini is all a King should be. He had the power to create and recreate, is all knowing, all wise and all powerful. He can do anything but only ruled in love and mercy because His very nature was love. The only thing that will incur his wrath was anything contrary to the way of love, it was called sin. Sin was a show of selfishness and disobedience to the instructions of the King.

Emini ruled over all there was in His Kingdom. He ruled with order and with laws that He himself would not break because to break these laws of love was contrary to His own nature. The Sum of all the laws of His Kingdom was Love. Love was all there was to it, He would not break this principle, in fact, He could not because Love was all He could be. The Kingdom was called Ile -Ife and He ruled in mercy, love and Peace.

All His Subjects called Him the King Who Loves us. Everything was under Him but He ruled in love despite all His power and sovereignty, that was the only way He Knew how to rule.

King Emini had a Friend called Levis. Levis was the best of the best, He was the epitome of Beauty, Strength and Splendour. Levis would walk the streets and He will be regarded just as much as Emini. The King gave Him all the beauty there was to give and He loved Him so much like a brother. Levis was very close to home like family.

Levis had many others like Him, they were great in strength and power but not as beautiful as Levis was. They had different powers and were subjects in Emini’s Kingdom.

One day, Levis began to see Himself in the place of Emini. He began to see himself being above Emini and called the King of Kings. This was the first time a person in Emini’s Kingdom will walk contrary to the principle of Love for to want to take another’s place is not to walk in love, to be proud was against love, Pride was the first Sin of Creation, it happened in the heavens, before the throne of God, in the Throne Room where there was Mercy and Grace. Levis had friends in support of His plot, others like Him. The King will have none of this, it was just a thought in the heart of Levis but will not go unpunished.

Emini being all powerful and all Knowing, knew about this plot by Levis, His closest friend and subject. There was only one way to deal with this. But it will take thousands of years because Emini was quick to love but very slow to Judge. Many did say that to Emini, a day was like a thousand years and a thousand years could be like a day mainly because of His nature of love. Whenever He loved for a thousand years to Him it was like a day and when He had to judge for a day it was like he had been doing it for a thousand years.

Love had to be all that was in Ile – Ife, anything contrary to love will lead to chaos, the Kingdom was at peace because of love. Levis’s actions changed this, Ile-Ife will never be the same, Emini cast Levis and His friends out of Ile – Ife until the day when all sin and evil will be brought to justice. Levis would not repent of breaking the law of love, in him was pride and arrogance like never before, He will do anything to walk above the King. That was the only way he would have it.

Emini knew all this but as his nature was He was slow to judge and Levis with his accomplices will be dealt with when their cup was full.

Somewhere in Ile – Ife were the Nams, the nams were a creation created in the very image of Emini. They had all the attributes of Emini but lacked his physical power, strength, prowess and beauty. They were the meekest in Emini’s Kingdom. The power of the Nams was sitted in their mind and spirit. They were able to accomplish anything they gave their mind to even if it took them a thousand years.

Emini loved them so much and the Nams loved Emini. Their satisfaction was in the fact that Emini was their friend and King. They loved the King and would do whatever He bade them to do because they knew He instructed them from a heart of love. The myth in the Land was that Emini had a secret tube that connected Him to all the Nams and each nam could communicate with Him anytime they wanted.

To show His love for the Nams, Emini created a realm called Areth. Areth was a realm of Ile – Ife. Areth was theirs to have and to use. Areth was a land of milk and Honey, filled with so many treasures. When Emini gave Areth to the Nams. He said to them ‘Be Fruitful, multiply on Areth, Have Dominion over it, take care of it, be creative, enjoy it, it is my gift to you because I love you’

Levis Envied the Nams for this because He thought to himself “how long did we Serve Emini and for once He never gave us a realm but to these nams who are not as great as we are, He gives them Areth?” His hatred for the Nams grew and He would have none of it.

Areth was the Envy of all Realms. No Realm compared to it.

A day came when the love of the Nams for Emini will be tested.

Levis had grown into everything Emini was not. His pride and arrogance had given birth to all manner of evil. He would not repent and spent all his days working towards overthrowing Emini.

Levis would deceive the Nams. He envied their relationship with Emini and He believed that the way to overthrow Emini was to get everyone of His subjects to betray Him. He believed that once Emini had no followers, He will be able to destroy Him and become the King. He also knew that the Nams will not do anything against Emini. Their very existence depended on Emini, without Emini they were nothing. Levis decided the best way to get this done was to deceive the Nams.

He succeeded. He tempted them with one of the treasures of Ile-Ife; Knowledge.

The Kingdom had many treasures Knowledge, Wisdom, Wealth, Riches, Honour, Prestige, Fame and many more pleasures to see, to enjoy and be proud about. However, the law of the land was that you could only get these things by love. By loving another nam or by caring for Emini’s creation will you get these treasures. Love was the currency of the Kingdom and there was nothing given or taken except by Love. To love was to Obey Emini’s laws trusting His Wisdom in every way.

The Nams were deceived and made to walk contrary to the law of love by disobeying an order of the King and that meant that they too will be exiled from the Kingdom just like Levis. However, because Areth was a gift to the Nams, Emini would not take Areth from the Nams. Instead He created a separation between Ile-Ife and Areth that could only be crossed by a very very narrow bridge, History has it that it is the narrowest bridge in all the Kingdom. The bridge was so narrow that it could only take a man at a time and even the man had to be so light, any weight carried by any man will make him fall off the bridge.

Emini was sorry. The King saw the deception of Levis and was desperate to restore His relationship with the Nams but Love was the law, and the moment that law was broken judgement will come but as always Emini was slow to Judge.

WHY WAS EMINI SLOW TO JUDGE?

Emini was slow to judge in the eyes of many. He had all power and authority and could do whatever He wanted but the only way He knows how to act was in love. Emini Knew the End from the beginning and He knew that some of the Nams will repent of their sin and turn to Him, for the sake of these Few who will turn back to Him, He was slow to judge. He will not judge any of his creation until he had given them time to repent of the evil they had done.

He loved his creation so much like a father will love his wayward son or daughter and will wait for as long as it will take for that wayward son to come back to Him once more. The Truth is that ‘His love was even much more than that’.

Besides, He had decided and appointed a day when He will judge all evil.

The fact that He loved did not mean that He will condone evil/sin, He will not condone sin, He showed this to the Nams 1656 years after He gave Areth to them.

Continued in Part 2

THE HYPOCRISY IN THE NIGER DELTA

Seriously, what is really wrong with Nigeria?

Are we running a Jungle?

Why does everyone begin to shiver every time the Niger militants issue comes up? Why do we treat them as if they have the interest of Nigeria or even their people at heart?

There is a lot of hypocrisy in the Niger – Delta Issue.

Recently, we hear there are militants in the south west of Nigeria and we send the Army, Navy and Airforce to nip it in the bud immediately (partly because our south-west leaders won't stand for any of it).

In the past, we hear the North-east has a crisis and we crawl around the issue until finally we realise we need to contain them until it was too late.

We hear of the IPOB in the South East and the government is so swift to deal with it after dancing around it for several days.

Are we a nation of militants? Are we a nation of Gun-carrying Mercenaries? For God’s sake can someone tell them that these gun carrying mercenaries who call themselves MEND, NDA, or whatever their names are, are not Nigerians?

Do we not learn as a people? In the past we have negotiated with militants and all they have done is just enrich themselves, Did Tompolo use the money He got from NIMASSA to develop the Niger Delta Region? Did all the other mercenaries take the monies they got from Government and use them to develop the Niger Delta? They negotiate with government, collect money, go to sleep and when the next government comes they wake up to their vices again.

In the South – West, we do not mince words. Because we know everyone who carries a gun destroying infrastructure is called a thief and a robber and we know what robbers do?

You don’t sit down to negotiate with them except from the position of strength?

We all agreed that they have been short-changed, so we formed the Niger-Delta Ministry and the NDDC to take care of it, and their people where in charge of these ministries for the past six years and we went as far as increasing the derivation to 13%. 

What is wrong with Nigeria?

We begin to think that we will free the Okah brothers and the others who we know are known murderers? Their demands are not even for the Niger-Delta people?

Are we running a jungle?

Can we for once take a stand and say that if you are a murderer and thief, you have no business talking with government?

A word is enough for the wise.

If we don’t deal with this now, we will continue to create problems for our future?

No group can stand the might of the government and the government should develop the Niger-Delta while dealing with all these mercenaries who call themselves freedom fighters?

God bless Nigeria.

ARISE, O COMPATRIOTS

I was watching the speeches at the democratic national convention and It stung something in me and made me think of my country Nigeria.

You Know, there is a sarcastic, joking front when we speak of Nigeria because our pain as a people is so much that only time and God will heal and the only way out for most of us is to talk about it with a form of satire but I believe it’s time to break those bands so we can begin to build a better Nigeria.

There’s no place like home and in Nigeria is our land, Lands that are ours to fight for, Lands and resources that were given to us all by God so that we can prosper as a people, not siphoned by a privileged few who think that Kings rule and not serve. In Nigeria, we can build hope for our children and children’s children and show to the world that we are a great people great (something we have already shown with all the accolades taken by Nigerians all over the world) and are willing to take the reins and make Africa and Africans great again because the prosperity of Africa is tied to Nigeria.

We’ve got from now till Jesus comes to change the story of our nation and build from the ruins of where we find ourselves today as a people.

You Know our founding fathers (not the Awolowos, Azikwes and Balewas) our fathers who fought for the African man, that fought against the tyranny of the British  and for what we have, fought  not seeing what will become of the Kingdoms that they built (they just wanted to leave an inheritance to their children and children’s children), then their sons the Awolowos, Azikwes and Balewas fought so that we will become great and live better lives, what they did not see was that decades later we will still be fighting to be what we can be, they did not see that their efforts will create the most populous black nation, they did not see that their efforts will produce men and women in every nation of the world working hard to leave better lives for their children, they did not see that today we will be fighting the fight of our lives against the evil of corruption and lack of competence in our leadership.

The days seem dark and bleak today but when we look back on humanity’s history we will see that there will always be dark days but the way out has always been to hope. To hope that we will be out of it by putting our hands together to build a country where no one will be left on the side. Hope is what helps us see the light at the end of the tunnel but most of all dealing with the issues that have brought these dark days upon us; the canker-worm of corruption, the locust of ethnicity & bigotry, we must go back to the very values that make us who we are. We must Hope against Hope.

In the midst of our dark days, we still have men and women who are fighting for the good of all but they cannot do it alone, let it be known that no man in any place can rescue us or can build the Nigeria we desire on his or her own (at least till Jesus comes), the Nigeria that we want can be built by us all, every single Nigerian must put his hands together to build what we want.  We build by our decisions every day, we build by our decisions at the polls, we build by how we treat the person next to us.

We should not be carried away. Not carried away by the tyranny of some of our present leaders, their selfishness, their bigotry, their lack of grace and their approach to leadership. They are examples of how not to build a nation, they are examples of what we would not become, they are examples of how a nation can be destroyed and how a nation will not move forward. They are the cancer that we must fight in building Nigeria and making it great like it once was.

But first we must admit our wrongs of the past. We must admit that we have failed to put the weak and oppressed first, that we have not pursued policies that seek to strengthen our bond as a nation. We must admit that we have gone into public office by seeking the gains for ourselves, our families, our tribes, our people and our zones. We must admit that we have shed the blood of the innocent, that we have put innocent men in prison, that we have not risen up to fight for those who have no voice, that we have been greedy of filthy lucre that we have not sowed where we ought to so that our children might reap prosperity and freedom.

Then we must move ahead. Agree together that we will not repeat these same mistakes; that is the only way the labour of our heroes past will be not be in vain. We must push for the values that make a great nation hard work, compassion, diligence, determination and sacrifice by one for all.

We must obey the call to be Nigerians.

The call to be Nigerians is to serve. To do for the good of all instead of the good of ourselves or our group. To make decisions with the least of us in mind. That’s the only way to build a great nation.

The call is that going forward we will despise anyone, whether politician or family or rich man or poor man who steals our resources for himself or a particular group of people like our corrupt politicians have done. That we will only serve out Land with Love for all, strength for the weak and Faith that we will be great.

That the Labour of every Nigerian, dead or alive will not be in vain, that we will not kill another for the interest of ourselves or our people like the Fulani herdsmen are doing today. That we will see every Nigerian as a brother in arms no matter what tribe he or she belongs to. Only then will we be able to protect our unity in the best possible way and uphold the honour and glory that we seek amongst all nations of the world.

That we will uphold the virtues of fairness and justice. That we would not be involved in the politics of name calling instead of addressing the very issues that are fundamental to our becoming great. That we will choose leaders not servants to lead us, men and women who have vision not men who are looking to give stomach infrastructure. Men or women who are looking to serve not those who are position seekers.

That we will sacrifice for the person next to us. That we will uphold the freedom of every one and be bound together in Freedom in Peace and Unity.

That is how we will

That is what we are called to. That is how we will become what we should and can be.

That’s the Call to Every Young Nigerian if we will be NIGERIA.

That's the Call every time it is sung "Arise, O compatriots. Nigeria's Call Obey........" 

NIGERIA’ S LEGISLATORS AND THEIR IRRESPONSIBILITY IN GOVERNANCE.

It’s time to take a swipe at the National Assembly for once and call them out to their responsibility. The national assembly holds the key to a lot of developmental initiatives that this country needs and without any doubt the success of any executive administration hinges on the National Assembly.

There are policies, legislations such as the PIB, Gender equality Bill, money laundering act, whistle blower act, industrial revolution bill, and so on which the national assembly ought to pass to get us going from where we are to where we want to be as a nation.

I have watched with trepidation how our national assembly has taken almost 100 days to deal with the budget. I have to say that it is a gross show of incompetence, a lack of appreciation of what role they have to play for Nigeria to be great again and pure irresponsibility. I say this for the following reasons:

ONE

The budget is a document that needs to be assessed and all you have to say to each item of the budget is two questions in lay man’s terms:

Is this required? And if it is required, is the cost too high or too low?

There may be all other processes and procedures, but it boils down to these two questions.

I must say I am not impressed. Initially, I was impressed that they could get to problems of padding and etcetera, but right now I have watched with trepidation how they have found it difficult to rectify all the errors and pass the budget to the presidency. It shows that for a long time, the budget was passed on a simple whim of ‘Has he satisfied us?’

It’s the 21^st century, there is a hard copy and a soft copy, and with an excel spreadsheet you’ll be able to edit whatever it is you need to edit within the shortest period of time. But who am I kidding, how many of our senators and house of rep members even know how to use a spreadsheet. Even, without a spreadsheet, they should be done with the document by now.

TWO

The national assembly passed a supplementary budget that will last till today, the 31^st of March 2016. And here we are waiting for the budget that should begin 1^st of April 2016 and there’s no budget to sign in front of the President. Alas, the President even realises there won’t be a budget to sign into law and travels to return on Sunday the 3^rd of April.

Essentially, every Kobo spent by government from the 1^st of April is illegal without a budget passed into law.  A good national assembly will know that the last budget passed will last till 31^st of March and will speed up its machinery to make sure that it sends the budget to the presidency before the 23^rd of March for the presidency to go through and have it signed into law before the 31^st of March.

THREE

The national assembly takes us for a ride as fools and because of the pressure of the press, passes a budget into law without the details and one of them comes out to the press to say, it is a normal process and not a misnomer. I weep for my country Nigeria.

The way it is the executive has 8months to implement a 12month budget and we keep complaining about the level of implementation of our budget. National Assembly! National Assembly! National Assembly! How many times did I call you? A word is enough for the wise.

For pit’s sake, Nigerians the next time you elect senators and representatives, elect the people who can deliver.

Finally, to those who will be there for the next four years or more, stop thinking governance is a joke, stop thinking governance is about your interest, stop thinking that it’s about filling your bellies, deliver to Nigerians, deliver, deliver, deliver and you will get a second term (even though some of you will just try to bribe the people).

My Second Letter to the Feminist

My Dearest Feminist,

And now it’s March 2016.

It was international women’s day yesterday and I watched as a woman on TV spoke passionately for the women but at the expense of all the men in the world.

Fortunately, I found a post by my friend on Facebook, making the case for all our women but stating the obvious, she stated:

Women are smart, resourceful, hard-working and beautiful. The exact same is true for men.

Males and females are wonderful, amazing, beautiful, unique and indispensable.
There can be no man without a woman and there can be no woman without a man.

Making a blanket statement that women are better and superior to men is as offensive as saying men are better and superior to women.

In our bid to achieve equal rights and justice for the girl child, let us not go overboard and become the very thing we so passionately despise: chauvinistic bigots. (KAE KAY-MARCH 2016)

Warmed my heart so much

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So my dear feminist, remember my last letter. I need to state the obvious once again.

Men and women are different and to begin to compare them in some circles is just plain wrong.

I advocate that the woman be paid just as much as the man is paid, I advocate that women be recognised for every one of their efforts and contributions, I advocate that the girl child be educated just like the men are, I advocate that women become CEOs and executives and so on.

But let it be known that the woman is called the weaker vessel not because they can’t do the things men do but because you cannot measure the physical strength of a man with that of a woman, I dare-say men have more emotional stability than women. Men are logical beings, women are emotional beings, this is what makes women realist and makes men more idealist, men strive for an ideal. On the flip side, I can’t care like you can, I can’t be as tender as you are and a whole lot of other things.

In our differences lies the need for companionship, marriage and all that God offers in a relationship between the man and the woman, I strive for the ideal and you bring me back down to earth, reminding of the reality before me.

Did you not here that the person who created them, created them male and female. In His wisdom he made them for each other not against each other. He looked at the man by himself and said ‘it is not good that man should be alone’. So we need you.

So I’ll fight for equal rights, I’ll fight for equal pay, I’ll fight for girl child education, I’ll fight for your voice to be heard, I’ll fight alongside you, I’ll hold your hands in this fight.

But I won’t fight for you to be me, I won’t fight for homosexuals and homosexual parenthood. We are different, forge a path for yourself and I’ll forge a path for myself, don’t be like me. Be you, the Woman, the Wife, the mother, be the great help that you’ll always be, because you are beautiful, lovely and awesome.

Happy International Women’s day

Your ‘Male Chauvinist’

'FOREVER' BY KARI JOBE

If there are words for Him, Then I don’t have them
You see my brain has not yet reached the point
Where it can form a thought
That could adequately describe the greatness of my God

And my lungs have not yet developed the ability to
Release a breath with enough agility to
Breathe out the greatness of His love

And my voice, you see my voice is so inhibited,
Restrained by human limits
That it’s hard to even sing the praise of….
You see if there words for Him, then I don’t have them

My God,
His Grace is Remarkable,
Mercies are Innumerable,
Strength is Impenetrable,
He is Honourable, Accountable, Favourable,
He is Unsearchable yet Knowable,
Indefinable yet Approachable,
Indescribable yet Personal,
He is beyond comprehension, further than imagination, constant through generations, king of every nation

But if there are words for Him, then I don’t have them
You see my words are few
And to try and capture the one true God using my vocabulary will never do,
But I use words as an expression, an expression of worship to a Saviour,
A Saviour who is both worthy and deserving of my praise, so I use words

My heart extols the Lord, Blesses his name forever,
He has won my heart, captured my mind and has bound them both together,
He has defeated me in my rebellion, conquered me in my sin,
He has welcomed me into His presence, completely invited me in,
He has made Himself the object of my sight.
Flooded me with Mercies in the morning, drowning me with Grace in the night
But if there are words for Him then I don’t have them

But what I do have is Good news, for my God knew that man-made words will never do,
For words are just tools
That we use to point to the truth,
So He sent His Son Jesus Christ as the Word, Living Proof,
He is the image of the invisible God, the Firstborn of all creation, for by Him all things were created,
Giving nothingness formation and by His words He sustains by the power of His Name

For He is before all things
And over all things He reigns, Holy is His Name
So Praise Him for His Life
The way He persevered in strife,
The Humble Son of God becoming the Perfect Sacrifice,
Praise Him for His death

That He willingly stood in our place,
That He lovingly endured the grave,
That He bowed our enemy and on the third day rose in victory,


He is everything that was promised
Praise Him as the Risen King,
Lift your voice and sing,
For one day He will return for us and
We will finally be united with our Saviour for Eternity, Eternity

So it’s not just words that I proclaim
For my words quoted the Word
And The Word has a Name
Hope has a name
Joy has a name
Peace has a name
Love has a name and
That name is Jesus Christ
Praise His Name Forever

Credits to the Song 'Forever' by Kari Jobe

Lessons From an Election.

O Nigeria, My Nigeria.

When will you learn, when will you understand

When will you see, when will you hear

That there is Hope, that there is better

That there are men who can give us better than we have now.

That there is a better Nigeria, that there is a better nation

That we are all we have.

That we are first Nigerians before being called

Igbos, Hausas, Fulanis, Kanuris,Yorubas

That we are first men before our divisions

That we need to change how we think about ourselves

That Competence builds a nation

That equity and Justice builds a nation

That capacity building is the way

That every one of us especially our leaders should be held to the same standards

Our election results show that only few understand this.

Our elections show that only few can see this.

Our elections results show that we do not understand that a man should be judged by His performance and not His ethnic or religious divide.

Oh Nigeria, Let your eyes be opened

Let your ears hear,

Let the wind carry this news to the ears of every Nigerian.

Let the Few make this known in the ear of every Nigerian.

THE CHRISTIAN POLITICIAN

I often I'm lost between two worlds. Being part of the Church and being Nigerian. Because the church clearly points out the dirt in our politics and in our fallen world. The question then is what is our role? How can we change the world without being leaders?

We are the light of the world, the salt in the earth, we are the ‘Life’ of the world. So our thirst for things to be better wherever we find ourselves is what makes us Christians.We do know however, that we will never have the world that we want till Christ comes. But till He comes we have the responsibility to uphold righteousness, justice and equity.The church has often failed in this regard, till God intervenes again and again and shows us that we are only a shadow of the perfect world to come.

I’ll take my cue from Solomon, he said ‘The words of the Preacher, the son of David, King in Jerusalem’ some interpretations put it like this ‘I the Preacher, son of David, was King in Jerusalem’

In saying this He recognised that He was First and foremost a preacher, then the son of His Father and then King of Jerusalem.

How does this apply to us today? We Christians are First Preachers.

We Preach a Message, the Gospel.

The Gospel is the love of God for man. We preach Hope, Faith, Love. We preach Love, Joy, Peace, Long-suffering, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, Meekness and Temperance. Our Gospel is that in the midst of a world with changing vanities, and that these virtues should and need to remain.

So to any Christian who preaches doom for the world, we are missing our message because the truth is this world will get better, Christ will reign in this world for 1000 years.

Our message is that God will however reign His wrath on those who will go against the principles of Christ that make the world a better place, Our message is that men should repent from their evil ways and turn to Righteousness, Justice and Equity. Our message is that we cannot rule ourselves that we need our creator to be able to make the world the better place we want and will find.

However, we must first become citizens of that world by becoming a people saved, sanctified and consecrated to Righteousness, Justice and Equity. A World with peace and Joy cannot have attitudes that are contrary to the teachings and dictates of Christ.

So our political stance is that we will not reward corruption, we will not pardon the enrichment of one to the detriment of many, that we will continue to work to make Nigeria and the world a better place, that we will work towards having a world where we can all be at peace, a world that Christ will inhabit.

Now, there are many who will not agree with our creed, who will take a stand against righteousness, peace, equity, justice and joy. Yes, there are many of them, who for their selfish interest will not believe our message, who will call our Christ a Fraud, who will say that there can be no better world, who will say it is not possible for a man to be perfect, holy and uphold all these things that I talk about, there are many who will say they are a part of us but will not chase after righteousness, holiness and purity, they are the ones we must convince and if they will not bulge, they will face the wrath of our God in the world to come because the world to come cannot have and will not have the injustices of this world.

So however, we try to fulfil this creed, by running for political offices or not. Our message remains simple.

That God is our creator and it is only in Him through Christ that we can have the world that every man wishes for. He makes us better men so that we can build and inhabit a better world.

No religion, no philosophy can offer this. This is what we call all men to. Our Hope.

DEEP AND SHALLOW MEN

Men, the creatures of logic and reason. Creatures whose code is honour and respect. Men, we have lived the world for many years and our desires remain the same. Men, not “pomo” men. Men to whom is given power on earth. What makes a man a man?

In my many short years in life, I have lived with men, sat down with men, dined with men, been friends with men and there are several kinds of men.

If you want to know a man, meet him at the place where he is with other men and see the words that pour out of Him, notice his expression to every comment, the way he smiles or frowns at them, in that place you would know if “He is a Man” or just a boy not ready to grow up.

There are men whose score is to get under the pants of a woman. The heads and tails of it for them is the virtue of a woman, they are always seeking the next score. Their pride is stored up in there, their pride rises and falls on this.

Then there are men whose pride is their success. The measure of them is how much money they are able to make, how much material they are able to acquire. Cars, bugattis, benz, bmws, houses, mansions, planes, lands and so on. Without any achievements to brag about they are quiet, solemn and sober.

Also there is the man who measures his pride by how many bottles of that alcohol bottle is he able to take into his bowels right there in the midst of the guys. The bottle is their life and their life is the bottle.

We also meet the men whose life worth rest on how much respect they are able to command, they pride themselves on the salutation of other men, so long as other men are in respect of them, their ego rises.

However, there is that man which is difficult to find today. The deep man, the man whose pride rest on the things that cannot be quantified. His allegiance goes to whatsoever is true, honest, just and of good report. His score is to find the one He will love forever and be always loyal too, His success is measured by how much he is able to enrich the lives of others around him, His success lays in the smile on the face of the kid on the street, His success is measured by how much of himself he can give not how much he gives, his prides does not lay at the drinking table, His life worth is not measured by the respect he gets from men but from the number of smiles He gathers from His creator. The deep man is not easily swayed or carried away by today’s pleasures.

He wakes up in the morning, prays to his creator to provide for him the things he needs to touch the lives of others. He goes out to work not because of what he can get for himself but because of what he can provide for the family, he drinks not to drown his sorrows but to share the joys of life with his friends, He loves his wife because it’s a vow he made to God, not only because of the pleasure she will give Him, His code is Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Goodness, Faithfulness, Meekness and Self-control. He is poured forth as a cup of wine for the blessing of all that come his way.

Shallow and deep men.

We all have one thing in common, we all want and need respect, achievement and pleasure. But what makes us different is the manner in which we seek to find them and in whose face we find satisfaction. God, Other men or Materials.

Deep men chose God. And you can only wonder why.

A letter to the Feminist

Dear Feminist,

A few years ago I heard you speak about how the world is so unfair to women and the need for more roles for women in the corporate world, you spoke of how women are used as foot-mats by men and how science shows that women are better managers than men.

I listened to you say that men are equal to women in the society and you even go on to insinuate that the women do more than the men in today's world because they are mothers and career women at the same time.

You spoke of how women are more faithful than men and often times in decision making have a better judgement. You spoke of how the present man’s world have failed us and how the women should be given the chance to fix what we the men have changed. You gave classic quotes like

What a man can do, a woman can do better.

Behind every successful man, there is a woman

A woman is the home builder.

And the likes.

I agree with lots of your words and for a fact, I have great regard for the leading women in today's world. However, I must point out some flaws in your statement.

1. The man is not equal to the woman.

2. A woman alone is not the home builder

3. Women do not need more roles in the corporate world and the men do not as well

4. like it or not it’s a man’s world (that’s just the male chauvinist in me talking)

If you believe in God or you’re an atheist, He created mankind male and female and called the woman a help to the man. If there was no need for the man he'll have created them female and female or vice versa.  But because, the man is different from the woman he created it so and made them think differently, react differently and speak differently. In the scheme of things therefore, we need each other.

An organisation with two leaders is usually soon to divide, that's why every organisation always needs a leader. Someone needs to be responsible for the family and I dear say it's the man based on biblical principles and several other reasons. I say this because he is stronger than the woman, he is the one who is called to die for his wife and children. He is what I call a servant leader.  Not the male chauvinist ruler leader presented by those on the other side. If he leads, he does so not out of a need to fill his ego, it's out of the sense that he wants to protect,serve,take care of and love you. So respect Him for that and you'll see just how much he will love you.

Statistics have shown that kids without a father figure are more prone to domestic violence and other criminal vices. He or she needs a father, a father that shows him that just because he is stronger doesn't mean he has to lord it over or bully whoever is weaker, a father that shows that to be head is to love and to provide for his own. He or she also needs a mother that will show that doing a lot of work in the house doesn't translate to being a slave, but that a king and a Queens role is to serve her subjects not the other way round.

Today's world places a lot of economic demands on families.  The man and woman have to work to keep it together.  However, if we are all out there working what happens to our children, how can we show them what it means to be a father and husband as well as wife and mother. We can't leave them to social media, TV and the likes. The world is not all economics and today, we seem to be growing in the economic front but are losing it at the social front.

We need to live balanced lives. A balanced life is one that sees the need for  the man and the woman to be at home. A balanced life is one that sees that being in charge gives me the responsibility to love more and being the woman gives me the responsibility of showing respect and submitting and does not make me any less of a being.

My dear feminist. We all need each other. And that's the message we need to pass across to our kids who someday will be in our shoes.

With the deepest love

Your Male Chauvinist. 

LOVE,FREEDOM AND DISCIPLINE

‘The love of Christ disciplines us………………………….’ (2 Corinthians 5:14)

‘Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels and have not Love, I am Like an empty barrel………………………Love never fails……………………… and there are faith, hope and Love but the greatest of this is Love’ (1 Corinthians 13:1-13)

'Do not let your freedom become a stumbling block to those who are weak' (1 Corinthians 8:9)

'…………where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom' (2 Corinthians 3:17)

'As free and not using your freedom as an excuse to harm others' (1 Peter 2:16)

I'm drawing on the wisdom of age today. My Father reminded me today how the love we have for something or someone causes us to act in certain ways. An example is how the love of a man for his wife makes him do the things that pleases her, disciplines him to steer clear of others and gives him freedom with her.

Love, Freedom and discipline.

These three things are connected and often misconstrued.

Love is made to look like it is simply an emotion. It is also made to look like the preceding factor before sex, Love is painted as an action of only kindness. These are only a part of it.

Freedom is regarded as the power to do what we want rather than the power to do what we ought to. Freedom as preached by human rights activist today has become a form of slavery because the very humans become slaves to that which they are fighting for.

Discipline is seen in the light of a stern, frown-faced man who will crucify you for even a smile.

All of these are wrong notions of these three things.

As humans, we need love to treat other men like we ought to, freedom to be able to do the things we ought to and discipline to stay clear of the things we want to do but are not supposed to.

Love, Freedom and Discipline.

The only freedom and discipline that is worth a man’s while is that which is born out of Love.

Love in its purest form, not the love that is preached in the streets. Love that births the smallest acts of Kindness as shown in ‘ordinary people’ by Cobhams, Love that sacrifices, and Love that lifts a person up. A love for God in Christ.

That is the connection. Our love for something ought to make us free and prevent us from doing the things that will harm us or others.

Jesus said the summary of all the law is to Love God and Love your neighbour as yourself and the wisest man, Solomon said, the conclusion of everything is to love God and Keep His commandments.

I have to reiterate the fact that a discipline and freedom that comes out of Love for anything else other than God is Unbalanced and will lead to the harm of some part of us. We are created in the image of God and we are unable to love the way we ought to outside of God, without God what is left is our ability to destroy ourselves because we are unable to live a balanced life. A balanced life is one which prospers the body, soul and spirit of a man not leaving one at the expense of another. When we love like God wants us to, we love like Christ. He is the example of what it means to love.

Love, Discipline and Freedom.

Why is it that in churches today, we say that where the spirit of God is there is freedom and we forget that the Love of God should discipline us to do the things that we ought to which is to live righteous and holy lives.

Or why is it that human rights activist fight for the rights of every man while forgetting that there are certain rights that are not to be fought for?

The Love of God constrains us.

No man is whole without God. It is only in God through Christ that we are able to find the balance of Love, Freedom and Discipline.

In Christ, we find Love for God, we find the freedom to do the things that are good for ourselves and for the people around us and the discipline to steer of the things that we ought not to.

As we prepare for His coming, let’s pray for the grace to Love God and men, the freedom not to be slaves to any of our desires and the discipline to stay clear of the things that will destroy mankind.

The Love of Christ frees us and disciplines us. Love is the beginning and the ending of it all.